None of us get through our childhood unscathed.
Even if you had the best parents in the world.
Even if all the teachers you had were supportive of your unique take on the world.
Even if the religion you followed allowed you to fully express all aspects of yourself.
Even if the society you live in was the most inclusive and liberal.
You can see where I’m going with this, right?
You see when we were born we were at our most open, trusting and vulnerable and we had no filters. that means we took everything as gospel, as the pure truth because we had nothing else to judge it by.
If someone told us we were ugly we believed them. If someone told us that we were useless and not worth the time spent talking to us, we took that in too.
The truth is they didn’t even have to say a word – we soaked everything up like a sponge; the good, the bad and the downright ugly. All was taken in and laid down in our subconscious mind and shaped how we viewed life from then on.
That voice you have in your head telling you that you are never going to amount to anything, that you will never find love? That comes from way back then.
And we can’t blame those who instilled those messages into us. They were just teaching us what they learned when they were young. No parent sets out to damage their child ( generally speaking. Yes, their are some damaged individuals who inflict child abuse but in broad sweeping terms most parents want the best for their kids).
Buried deep inside of us is a wounded child. A child that needs our love, forgiveness and compassion as if they were standing in front of you right now with tears streaming down their face and looking to you to make it all okay.
How do we go about making it okay? How do we kiss the boo boos away and tend to those past hurts?
Here’s a few simple steps you can take:
(1) Acknowledge the hurts. We can’t heal what we don’t acknowledge and sometimes the healing lies in the acknowledgement.
(2) Do a visualization and imagine sitting down with your inner child and asking them what they need for healing. This can be a powerful process for healing on all levels. Imagine taking the younger you onto your lap and giving them a big hug and listening to all they have to tell you.
(3) Write your younger self a letter telling yourself all the messages that you had longed to hear. how valuable you are as a person, how much you are loved and treasured.
(4) Place photos of you when you were younger around your work space so you can remember to connect with that younger aspect of yourself. Let it be a reminder to have fun and play.
(5) Most of all be gentle with yourself and know that whatever your childhood was like you survived and you are here now and that in itself is a precious gift.
What is your favorite way to nurture your inner child?