Let’s face it our libido is not a static thing.
We all go through times of feeling horny as buck rabbit and other times when the lure of sleep far outweighs the delights of sex. Both of these things are totally normal.
The pressure of life, stress, and a head full of “to do ” lists will sap anyone’s libido
So what can you do to reignite the flames of desire?
(1) Make time for pleasure
It can be tempting to stay up binge-watching your favorite tv shows but the price to pay might just be your sex life. If you don’t make time for sex then it will disappear off the menu.
Sex is not something to be rushed. You both need to be able to savor it and not worrying about …..anything.
Your tv show will be there later. Your sex drive might not be.
Make sex a priority and give it the time it deserves.
(2) Talk about it
If you have noticed a decline in your sex drive talk to your partner. Let them know that you still find them desirable. Tell them you’ve got a lot on your mind and discuss how you can both manage the dip.
Pretending like nothing is going on isn’t going to make it go away.
There is also a correlation between the voice box and the vagina and there is a good reason to let all that stuff that you are not talking about, out. As we open and soften our throat space, so will our genitals open and soften and RELAX
(3) Get out of your head
Spend some time each day reconnecting with your body. Do some exercise – whatever you love. Dance to some music. Do whatever it takes to get out of your own head and back in touch with your body.
Another great tool for getting out of your head is journaling. Writing all that shit out so you don’t have to think about it anymore is always going to help clear your mind and give you some space to breathe.
A fabulous tool for bringing you back to your body is the yoni egg.
Yoni eggs help you to connect back to your feminine self while also clearing and releasing emotional baggage that we may have stored in our body. Letting that shit go also opens you up to increased sensitivity and better orgasms.
(4) Be Present
This is a follow on from the last tip. When you do (finally) have sex be fully present to what is happening. We can all get lost in our own little fantasies but the best sex happens when you are fully present.
Allowing yourself to fully feel what is happening right now shifts you from your head and back into your body and lets all those stresses and pressure slip away.
(5) Get some help
It is always a good idea to check with your doctor to make sure there is nothing underlying the issue.
It may be that you are approaching menopause or that you simply are stretching yourself too thin.
There are also herbal remedies that you can take to give yourself a boost. Oat straw infusions are one that will have you “sowing your wild oats” again. It is also good for assisting with lubrication. Taking one dose is not going to be enough though so be persistent. If you don’t like the taste use it as the base for a smoothie and you will never know it is there.
Maca is another tried and trusted supplement that will have you back in the saddle in no time. It also has the added benefit of soothing the adrenal glands which helps if you have worked yourself to the bone. It is also suitable for males and females.
Taking time to connect with yourself and with your partner will soon have you back in the swing of things. When it comes to libido it really is a case of use it or lose it. Give these tips a try – you’ve got nothing to lose.